Positive Habits of Relationships in the Book Fall in Love...

Positive Habits of Relationships in the Book Fall in Love Stay in Love by Wilard Harley Willard Harley, the author of His Needs Her Needs, has written a follow up book discussing the insights and techniques for building and sustaining the feeling of love in marriage. The name of this book is Fall In Love Stay In Love. The objective for this book is to help people fall in love by learning how to meet each others needs, and it goes further by showing what habits to avoid in order to stay in love. This book has very realistic concepts because Harley is speaking from experience. He is a marriage counselor and has used his philosophy on bringing couples together in a loving relationship many times. If a family were to take the steps†¦show more content†¦He says, Most people regard the feeling of love as one of lifes great and wonderful mysteries. Its certainly great and wonderful, but as I have already mentioned, its not a mystery. I have found the feeling of love to be quite predictable. And its the predictability that makes my job possible. One of the main focuses of Fall In Love Stay In Love is dealing with what Harley calls love bank deposits. This could be one of the most influential insights of the book. This section deals with how to care for each other. The book talks about two different types of love, romantic love and caring love. For the author, the only way to reach romantic love is to first have a deep caring love. In order to reach the full capacity of this caring love, he gives a step-by-step lesson on how to deposit positive love units into the spouses love bank. There was a fascinating concept that Harley brought up in chapters five and six, concerning both his and her most important emotional needs. Harley describes what an emotional need is by saying, An emotional need is a craving that, when satisfied, makes us feel happy and fulfilled and, when unsatisfied, makes us feel unhappy and frustrated. There were five emotional needs listed for each sex. For men the needs were: sexual fulfillment, recreational co mpanionship, physical attractiveness, admiration, and domestic support. For women the